Anger Management

We all have those days where you want to scream or shout because someone is pushing your buttons, blatently insulting you, or your intelligence. Some days you may feel like you are turning into Victor Meldrew ! losing the rag or uttering obscenities , but that rarely gets you anywhere, you usually just become more annoyed,  and left simmering in a state of anger.


Unfortunately today we all seem to have shorter fuses, and can strike back or use our anger as a weapon of mass destruction ! We have all done it at one stage or another, having blurted or shouted out something in the heat of the moment, then wishing you hadn't .


We should all endeavour to be kinder and gentler towards each other , however difficult it may seem in this 'dog eat dog' world we have all become accustomed to .  We have all heard the saying as children 'sticks and stones may break your bones, but words will never hurt me ' , but we all know in reality this is not always the case.


Let me share a story with you which I read a while back which is an interesting analogy and in my opinion worth pondering upon .



"There was a boy who had a short fuse and was always losing his temper , his Dad gave him a bag of nails and told him that every time he lost his temper, he must hammer a nail into the fence.

By the end of the first day the boy had hammered thirty nails into the fence. Over the next few weeks as he learned to control his anger, the number of nails hammered daily, gradually reduced. He discovered it was easier to hold his temper than to drive those nails into the fence.

Finally the day came when the boy didn't lose his temper at all. He told his Dad about it and the father suggested that the boy now pull out one nail for each day that he was able to hold his temper.
As the days passed by the young boy was finally able to tell his Dad that all the nails were gone. The Dad took his son by the hand and led him to the fence. He said "you have done well son, but look at the holes in the fence. The fence will never be the same. When you say things in anger, they leave a scar just like this one."
You can put a knife in a man and draw it out. It won't matter how many times you say I'm sorry, the wound is still there.
Make sure you control your temper the next time you are tempted to say something you will regret later."

Definitely food for thought.